His Mother and Him

It's mother's day and every year, post about mom is poped-up everywhere on instagram!

I was once seeing a male friend post story about what he did with his mom on mother's day. This remind me of my boyfriend. I wonder what he did to celebrate this day with his mom, what kind of gift he'd give to her. This kind of taught drives me to another taught about how come he never post anything in his social media about his mom? Did they have a really bad relationship?

Then I remember something and I feel really stupid. My boyfriend lost his father last year and he's carrying his father's duty ever since. He have to take his mom everywhere she wanna go, work for his family's finance, even take care of his mom when she doesn't feel well. All this things already take much of his time and energy and of course, a real proof of love to his mom.

So, whenever I think why doesn't he post about his mom on social media, I gotta remind myself, "ain't he got time for that"

He's busy out there, struggling so much for his family, with all his love.

Careless

I wonder how could someone seems so careless in purposed to his girlfriend.

Seems like they just walked their girlfriend straight to certain romantic place, then suddenly shows her an engaged ring and he was like, "I love you, will you marry me?" or that kinda sentence. Then the girl was incredibly touch and she started to cry while replying, "Yes, I do!"

In some chase, the boy even rented a party planner, so when the couple arrives at certain romantic place, it was already decorated by shabby or flowery thingy and the party planner member set someone to capture the moment. In the end, they got engaged.

I don't mean to discriminate some action because people have their own way to do a things. I just think that using party planner to join my private moment isn't just my thing.

Me, obviously, started to think about getting married. At first, I do think I'm gonna do the first thing I stated in this post. Just that simple. When my boyfriend finally brought this in our conversation, it turned out that asking your girlfriend to marry you wasn't just as simple as give her a ring. There's sooooooooo many things to settle, what we were uncertain about. About belief, finance, family, target, problem-solving, capital, daily needs, and so many things that I'm pretty sure that hasn't enough. Which means the discussion doesn't finish in one meeting but taking several months.

I'm glad my boyfriend wasn't a romantic-type boy. I wonder if he was, he set a romantic dinner and rent a party planner to decorate our table. Then by the time he shows me a ring and asked will I marry him, I'm going to look at him, uncertain, and start to interrogate him, "have your mom heard about this? have you found a place to stay for us after getting married? have you calculate the cost of our ceremony later? what will your sibling thought about this? ect, ect," and what if it takes more than to ours until I finally said yes and the person who capture our moment have already exhausted as if he'd better die. Don't forget that it'll make all the romantic decoration going waste too.